I think we’ve all been there, that night out that started off better than it ended. Maybe you were all pumped up for a night out on the town, as you put on your favorite playlist to get ready to together. Swapping stories, helping each other choose outfits, sipping on something sinful, the night starts off at an impossible high….and then you leave for the bar, pay a cover charge to sit amongst yourselves as the emotional high starts to die down. If this has happened to you more than the occasional off night, maybe just maybe getting ready together is more fun than going out for you.
I think that makes a lot of sense, and here’s why.
When you are getting ready together, the control is yours. You chose your environment (probably your house or your friend’s house), which you feel safe and comfortable in. You have the ultimate control over the playlists, which can have a lot of subconscious influence over the collective energy in the room. As you are getting ready, you have your best resource all around you—the people who will build up your confidence and mood, pep talk you if you should need it, help you with your hair and tell you what clothes look best on you. You have makeup tips at your disposal, and any pictures taken have a way better chance of turning out well now than they do later in the night. And, let’s face it, you are already with all the people you will have the most fun with—they are your friends, after all.
The moment you leave this blissful bubble however, expectation must meet reality. If you were planning on meeting up with other people there, did they come? Did they come in as great of a mood as you did? And how is the bar—is it safe, is it lively, are there enough people, are there too many people? Chances are if you feel at all uncomfortable, your senses will be heightened subconsciously and you will become more aware of your surroundings and the way people are perceiving you than is conducive to relaxing with friends.
And sometimes once we’ve locked into this idea that we are going out for the night, or maybe even feel committed to it because we paid a cover charge, we feel the need to stick it out past its expiration date.
And that’s okay. Don’t be too hard on yourselves; I think getting ready together is more fun too, and I think we owe it to ourselves to enjoy that part of the night if that’s what we enjoy.